Learning to Let Go


2013 was not a banner year for me.  Nor were the years leading up to it.  Consequentially, for years, decades even, I let bitterness and anger consume me.  It was reflected in my writing, my personality, and my actions.  The poison of cynicism tainted every aspect of my life.

Then came a moment of clarity.  A beam of light pierced through the dark sky and cast warmth and optimism upon my world.  At that moment, I knew I had to make a choice that would forever dictate my path.  I could either elect to live my life under the glow of that ray of sunshine or allow the blackness of intolerance and hate to take over my soul.

Let’s face it.  Bad things happen to each and every one of us.  Sometimes, those things are small and trivial.  The restaurant overcooks your steak, you get cut off in traffic, or you ruin your favorite pair of shoes.  From there, the levels of badness increase exponentially.  You may lose your job.  Your marriage may be in jeopardy.  Serious illness may afflict you or a loved one.

No matter what life throws at you, it’s how you internalize it and react that makes all the difference.  For those of us stuck in a rut of negativity, changing means reprogramming.  It requires work and vigilance.  For me, it means coming to grips with the fact that I cannot control the world around me.  I can’t make others act nice or decent or respectful.  But what I can do is consciously decide not to allow their transgressions to nip away at my soul.

What I may find is I’ve been missing out on the goodness in the world.  I’m already beginning to see it, but only because I’ve opened myself up to the possibility that it exists.

I hope for those of you who find yourself sinking in a sea of hostility, you may also be rescued.  Although, when it comes down to it, the only one who can rescue you from yourself is you.  Be your own life vest, swim to shore and escape the torrents of animosity.  If you do, I will be waiting on the beach of tranquility, holding out my hand.

4 thoughts on “Learning to Let Go

  1. Totally understand this. Totally feel this. If you don’t learn to let go, forgive not only others but also yourself, then life gets twisted inside out till you don’t recognize anything and no one recognizes you anymore. Bitterness is tinged with regret for things we cannot change. However some people think that acceptance is laying down and letting situations or people walk all over you. That isn’t true. You can accept what has happened in your life without swallowing it down. You can speak your peace over an issue. No one has the rights over your mind other than you. This is a lesson I am learning, and something that has taken years to understand. Great post, I wish you peace in the new year.

    • Dear fefeely412,

      I love your reply. It couldn’t be more accurate. Like you, it has taken me a long time to “see the light.” And I completely understand your point about acceptance being misconstrued as laying down and taking it. That particular concept has been my biggest hurdle.

      I wish you the best in the upcoming year. It sounds like you are on a great path, my friend.


  2. I think one of the most pleasant things you’ll find Sherry, is that YOU won’t be alone on that beach either. Despite any negativity that may still linger you’ll see the world is still full of nice people who care, who won’t want to put you down, crush you, dominate you or even just annoy you. They’ll just want to give you a Hug and say Hi, we’re with you when needed.
    xxx Hugs Galore and wishes of Blwyddyn Newydd Dda xxx

  3. Hi David,

    I’m so glad you found me here. New year, new look, new attitude, new me. (With the feisty remnants of the old Sherry still alive).

    I hope 2014 brings you goodness and joy. You are a sweet man and I’m so thankful for your loyalty.



Tell me your thoughts . . .

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s